Hey Friend,
Today feels like one of those days where I didn’t want to do anything deep, productive, life-changing, or inspirational. I just want to lollygag around my apartment a little bit and do absolutely nothing. And honestly, I think grown folks need more days like that.
Yeah, forget those dishes in the sink, those chores from earlier this week, cooking, and planning for the next day. Sometimes, it’s ok to do nothing but sit around in last night's gown, flip through a good book, drink coffee with marshmallows, and watch a good or bad movie. If you know, then you know.:)
Honestly, everything nowadays feels so serious and overly structured. Who can relate?
Somewhere along the way, we stopped wandering around stores with no real purpose, driving with the windows down sightseeing with no reason to do anything, or grabbing snacks we didn’t need, or sitting in parking lots thinking about absolutely nothing. I miss that kind of living. It’s funny, back in the day, I called that life boring because that’s all we could afford to do. But, oh, how I long for those long-lost days now. My granny used to say: little, gal, just keep on living, life will show you something.
So, today I am giving myself permission to do nothing, and I mean nothing. But the grown woman version of it.
And maybe that’s the reminder for today: not every moment has to become content, a lesson, a breakthrough, or a business plan. Sometimes life is just supposed to be enjoyed while it’s happening. So, girl, if you are reading this: Just Relax!
At the moment, I am drinking homemade dark coffee with butterbeer creamer and foam topped with marshmallow. I am sitting on my sofa flipping through a Vogue book and watching a good movie on Amazon Prime Video. Please don't ask me why I picked this movie by Tyler Perry, Divorce In The Black. But, Ya'll, this is one of those movies that will have you all up in your feelings.
Watching Divorce in the Black had me sitting there the whole time thinking about how hard it can be to let go of people you thought would be part of your life forever. The movie is full of drama, emotions, messy relationships, and the kind of love that no woman in her left or right mind should want. I learned that from my own personal experiences.
One thing Tyler Perry movies are always going to do is make you frustrated at least once. Lol. I kept wanting the main character, Meagan Good, to stop carrying everybody else’s pain and finally choose herself. And honestly, that is what stayed with me the most after the movie ended.
Honestly, sometimes love is not just about staying; sometimes love is knowing when you deserve peace more than struggle. And that's on every FUNKY thang. :) If you know, you know. The movie also made me think about how easy it is to lose yourself trying to save relationships that are already draining you. The older I get, the more I realize peace really is part of the good life. It's not chaos, not constantly fixing people for me; it will always be just peace. :)
Divorce In The Black definitely had those intense Tyler Perry moments, but after getting past all the drama, it really felt like a story about self-worth, healing, and learning when it is time to walk away from what no longer feels healthy or beneficial. Definitely one of those movies where afterward you just sit there like… whew chile, that was a lot. Lol.
Let me know in the comments if you have seen Tyler Perry's Divorce In The Black?
Anyway, that’s today’s little takeaway from me. I’m off to continue my professional level lollygagging.
Drop a comment if you like. Nonetheless, here’s to enjoying life beyond existing!
Xo Tangie Bell
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