The time has finally arrived when implementing a Don't Care Day is vital to living a peaceful, ageless lifestyle.
Disclaimer: I don't want to sound too deep or over the top with what I am about to say.
Having An I Don't Care day is nothing major; it's just the opposite of taking a self-care day. Although, it has a few slight differences.
But here's the kicker: It's not a self-care day at all. I look at having a self-care day is when I pamper myself, go get my nails done, maybe do a little skincare. Nothing major, just the basics.
But no, I do not want to do a self-care day on my day off. Honestly, that is no fun or relaxing to me at all. Sometimes, after a pampering day like that, I am more tired because it took all day to do the things that were supposed to make me feel relaxed.
And before anyone gets upset and says I'm being selfish by taking a don't care day, let me explain a little more.
POV: All women working in or outside the home should have a don't care day.
A don't care day simply means:
taking time to show up for yourself without interruptions from the outside world.
This is my personal opinion. I think we all need a day where we are not showing up for anyone else, not the job, not even for our family and friends. No Pun intended, but a day off means just that I'm taking a day off.
That one day or two off days is my time, and I have learned to use it for the thing or things I want to do.
Another Disclaimer: If there is an emergency, of course, I must care and do what's necessary to help with the situation. But, and I mean But:)
If someone is just calling to gossip on the phone, I can't do it because I only have that one day to do what I really want.
Don't get me wrong, I love a little gossip here and there with my friends, but nowadays, I don't have four hours in my day to waste. And most likely, they don't either. :)
It has taken me years to stop and start living in the mundane moments. I never could enjoy the small things in my life because I was always working, or planning the next big thing. And before I knew it, the time clock had caught up with me. Yep, that's how I arrived at being 50-something. (More on that in later blog posts).
As I've become older and more mature in my thinking. I need and want those times when I am not ripping and running for my girls and family or working my morning job until it gets late in the evening. #hairstylistlife
Don't get me wrong, I enjoy showing up for others, especially my family, but not every single waking day, 7 days a week, 365 days a year.
Sometimes I felt as if I couldn't stop and place my phone on airplane mode so I show up for myself at least once a week. It's because when I analyze my time, I was always busy doing something. Honestly, it was no one's fault but mine. At the end of the day, I took on all the tasks, over-filling my plate with things to do, and saying yes to everything.
It's not bad, but as I grow older, running errands, cooking, cleaning, etc, yadda yadda is not enriching my life. :) Yep, I said what I said.
So, here's more of what I mean when I say I'm showing up for me, myself, and I.
In fact, I have a few non-negotiables I am willing to share on this Funky blog of mine.
This is my life, and yours may look different than my don't care day. And yes, these are non-negotiables.
#1 Starting A Hobby and working on my own personal self-development.
Because no matter how I try not to do this one thing, I always find myself doing it repeatedly. I will use a day that is intended for me to work on my denim bags to run errands, grocery shop, clean the house, or cook dinner. lol:)
To me, that's not enjoying a full day off. So, now I am intentionally setting aside the time I need to mentally get myself together and work on my dream hobby of making things with my hands.
Having a hobby or personal goal is vital to aging.
For example, if someone wants to take up pottery as a hobby, by all means, make the time and do it. Carve out a day and time for your new craft.
My hobby is handmaking denim bags and jewelry; therefore, I have to make time for myself to do my craft. It may seem small to someone else, but it's really a good activity for me mentally, and doing so helps me think outside the box of just living and not existing. Actually, having a hobby is me just showing up for me.
I feel every morning is a new day to hit the start button and just start doing and living the life I desire. Even if it's small, little mundane things as long as I do it for myself.
#2) Another nonnegotiable is spending more time with God, just plain ole' amping up my faith y'all.'
Since 2020, I can't tell you the last time I've stepped foot into a church house. Now, don't get me wrong, I'm a praying gal.
But, I've just given myself all types of excuses for not being in a building, learning new things, and, most importantly, joining in live praise and worship. I have made it a practice now to start going back this Sunday, and I am excited about it.
But, I don't care. I will leave that day untouched so I can enjoy myself. My Sunday is definitely a none negotiable day.
#3 My business and the time I need to do the things for it. There are days I have to run errands only for my business, and I love it, so, that is on my I Don't Care Day. I'm not putting that on the back burner anymore.
#4 Date time with my husband, non-negotiable: We work hard, and now it's time to play even harder. Wifey's Home Baby-It's Our Time:) (That's Our Inside Joke) When We Are about to leave our daughters and go out on the town by ourselves. lol:)
#5 Time to grow and understand who I am as a 50-something woman. I never knew there would be more things I needed to learn at this age. Yep, I thought I knew everything, but life shows you new things that must be learned.
#6 Making time with my girls: Here is the real tea. My daughters are grown except one, and they have their own lives: they work/go to school/college. My daughters are doing what they want to do with their lives as they should. But, I still have to make time for coffee dates, cooking, and laughing on Sunday dinners.
Okay, enough of that, moving on. :)
But now, at 50-something, it's my time, and my goal is to pick up the things in my life I've let fall by the waste side. And I'm loving this journey for myself.
That's just a few things I wanted to share. If you are reading this post.
Your Don't Care day may look different from mine. But it should be a day where YOU genuinely see about yourself, so make your don't care day personal (All About YOU, Darling)
Just My POV: Go do something fun, have ice cream, and/or go to a museum alone or with someone. Whatever that don't care day consists of, Just Do It.
Check out my YouTube for more on this topic. Oh, and yes, there is more.
In the comments below, how will you start implementing your own DON'T CARE DAY?
Until Next Time, Here's To Living Beyond Existing!
xo tangie
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